Old Friends Vs. New Friends

We all have them - friends that we call "friends" because we've known each other forever and have managed to stay in touch through high school, college, boyfriends, 21st birthdays - you name it, they've made it through with you.

Then, there are our new friends. Those we either met in college and have stayed in touch with or those we've found through the workplace.

The question I've been struggling with lately is not necessarily who is better, but more importantly, who is more loyal?

True - the tendency is to assume the old friend because well - they're an "old" friend and have been there with you through it all. Well, no offense here but, who the heck cares? Honestly, lately I've been pretty disappointed  in my relationships with my oldest friends. We aren't making time for each other, haven't called to talk to each other, or even send a text to see how each other is doing. In fact, I've flat out not returned calls and vice versa. Question is: Why is this happening?

I think there is a lot more leniency with the "old" friend. Well, we can just see each other another time, we always manage to see each other at some point! OR, I or he/she is more likely to be understanding because we've known each other for so long. There is no one willing to plan a meeting ahead of time anymore - where as, new friends tend to want to schedule - even a month in advance! Which works better for me personally since I have a husband and 2 children...

Regardless, friendships are work. Just like any other relationship. And they take two. Or three or four or however many friends are in your circle, clique, whatever.

I feel useless sometimes as a friend too because honestly, my life is boring. It's routine. I have no drama, no cool stories, nothing interesting to report - Sometimes I feel like my days are like the movie "Groundhog Day" and every now and then, it gets to switch up if I do something special with Luke or a fun activity with the kids.

I feel like newer friends are more accepting of my boring life. Sometimes I feel like old friends still expect me to be who I once was or my "old" self, which just isn't the case.

I don't know - Life, once again, you continue to show me things that sometimes I don't like, but I also know that everything happens for a reason.

I guess this saying says it all...
"One loyal friend is worth ten thousand relatives."
- Euripides, Greek playwrite